How to avoid intensifying conflicts when persuading others

A large number of cases of persuasion show that there are two main types of situations in which conflicts are intensified by persuasion

The first is to strengthen the negative emotions that the other party should not have, thus adding fuel to the fire and expanding the situation.

The second type is "burning". Because of the improper persuasion method, it infuriates the other party and makes the other party transfer all his dissatisfaction and resentment to you. You become his opposite and "outlet".

So if you want to be a persuader, you need to be self-restraint, broad-minded and generous. In the case of the above situation, we must never turn our lips against each other in order to save our own face, and turn the jade and silk into hostility.