Deftly refuse in a circuitous way

When it's not good to refuse positively, you can take circuitous tactics. Whether you want to change the topic or have another reason, you should be good at making use of the inflection of tone - never agree, but never tear your face. For example, first express sympathy to the other party, or give praise, and then put forward reasons to refuse. Because the other party has been in favor of you psychologically because of your sympathy, so they can accept your rejection with an "understanding" attitude.

For example, when your good friend asks you to borrow money, but you really can't do it, you can politely refuse him: "if possible, I will do my best to help. It happens that I'm not convenient. I can't help you. It's really sad from the bottom of my heart that you came to visit me, but I can't help you! I hope you can forgive me

Or say: "you and I are good friends, if the number is less, I will certainly be happy to lend it to you. However, the number is too large for me to help. Please forgive me

Such statements are not only appropriate, but also show sympathy for your friends, and will not affect the relationship between you.