Meet each other psychologically first

You have to be clear that the only effective way for a person to do anything for you is to make him willing. At the same time, we must also remember that people's needs are different, and each has his own hobbies and preferences. As long as you carefully explore the other party's real intention, especially those related to your plan, you can deal with him according to his preference.

You should first adapt your plan to the needs of others, and then your plan can be realized. For example, one of the most basic points of persuading others is to skillfully induce the other's psychology or feelings, so as to make others submit. If you especially emphasize your own advantages and try to gain the upper hand, the other party will strengthen their guard. Therefore, we should first point out our own shortcomings or mistakes, so that the other side has a sense of superiority.

In addition, some people who think that they have helped others and are kind to you will unconsciously develop a sense of superiority, and they may even have to criticize you. When you think you may be accused, you may as well reproach yourself first. When the other party finds that you have admitted your mistake, he will be embarrassed to reproach you again.

In the process of doing things, you should try to do this - first satisfy each other psychologically, so that things will become much easier and smoother.