How to overcome the dependence psychology

The dependent behavior of dependent personality has become a habit. To overcome this bad habit, we must first get rid of it. Check which of your behaviors are habitually dependent on others and which are self-determined. You can take notes every day for a week, and then divide these events into three grades according to strong, medium and poor self-awareness, and summarize them every Monday.

For the events with strong sense of self-determination, we should insist on doing it ourselves in the future. For example, if you want to wear bright clothes to work one day, then you should insist on wearing bright clothes to work later, instead of giving up because of others' gossip, until you no longer like wearing such clothes. Although these things are very small, they are the breakthrough for you to correct your bad habits.

For the events with moderate self-awareness, you should put forward improvement methods and gradually implement them in the future actions. For example, when making a work plan, you listen to your friends' opinions, but you don't appreciate them. You should tell your friends the reasons why you don't appreciate them. In this way, your own opinions will be infiltrated into the work plan. With the increase of your own opinions, you can gradually change from listening to others' opinions to completely making your own decisions.

For the events with poor self-awareness, you can take deceptive control technology to gradually strengthen and improve self-awareness. Deceptive control method is to increase the color of self creation under the behavior required by others. For example, if you know from your lover's hint that she likes roses, you buy a flower for her, and it seems that you have the suspicion of completing the task. But as the number of such things increases, you will feel that it will also bring you happiness. If you offer to take your lover to the botanical garden for a weekend, or take him to a flower arrangement show, you will prove that your sense of autonomy has been greatly strengthened.

Dependent behavior is not easy to eliminate. Once you form a habit, you will find it difficult to decide everything by yourself. You may unconsciously go back to the old way. In order to prevent the occurrence of this phenomenon, the simple way is to find a supervisor, preferably the one you rely on most.