Attract the other person's attention with interest

In the process of communicating with others, if you want to seek help from others, the key problem is whether the other party can agree to your request and help you to do things successfully. What he thinks in his heart determines whether he will do or not to do what he puts forward to you.

Obviously, people who are interested in or think that something has a satisfactory return will be willing to put their feelings, energy and even money into it. Psychologists also tell us that how people think about a thing is the result of external interest and interest temptation. If he is interested in a problem or wants to get a, he will say what's good for a and do what's good for A. on the contrary, he has a primitive and unconscious psychology of rejection. Therefore, if we want to change others in social communication, and if we want to win the other party's consent or help in handling affairs, we should try to make the other party have a positive interest in this matter, or try to make the other party feel that they will get their own interests after finishing this matter.

Using interest to ask for help must make the other party feel naturally happy, confident and hopeful. Only by attracting the other party with interest can the other party be willing to pay for your business. Here are some tips to use this method.

(1) You can make use of those novel things to arouse the curiosity of others, so that they can't help but chase after you. At this time, people will have a strong interest in you, and they can't help sticking together with you. If you go further, you may lead them by the nose.

(2) When we carefully try to approach others according to their experiences and interests, we should not only bring out "novel" things, but also mix in some "familiar" elements. Because our goal is to capture other people's attention.