When criticizing others, it's better to stop

People have self-esteem. When criticizing others, they should be concise and to the point. If you talk too much, it will have the opposite effect, make the other party resent, and have the opposite result. It's the best way to get there.

Yanzi was a minister of Qi who was good at remonstrating. Seventeen years after his death, Qi Jinggong once invited doctors to drink. After drinking, Jinggong arched to the outside of the target, but all the people in the room praised him. King Gong changed his face and sighed, leaving the bow aside.

At this time, the chords came in. Jing Gong said: "it's 17 years since I lost Yanzi. I've never heard anyone criticize my mistakes. Today I shot my arrow out of the target, but they all praise me. "

Xianzhang said, "it's not good for the ministers. Their own quality is not high, so they can not see where the monarch is not good; they are not brave enough, so they dare not offend the dignity of the monarch. However, you should pay attention to one thing. I heard: "if the monarch likes clothes, the minister will take them to put them on for him; if the monarch likes food, the minister will give them to eat." An inchworm, like an inchworm, will turn yellow if it eats something yellow. If it eats something green, it will turn green. As a monarch, there will always be flatterers! "

Xian Zhang's words are quite reasonable to Jing Gong. He understands that flatterers are just in his favor. If he hates flattery, few people will please him.

Although Xianzhang doesn't directly criticize Jinggong for listening to flattery, Jinggong has deeply understood this. In fact, if Xianzhang criticizes Jinggong for more, the effect will be better.

In real life, people generally have the mentality of eating soft but not hard. Especially for those with strong character and strong opinions, if you say tough words, such as using the tone of command, the other party will not only ignore you, maybe even harder than you. Therefore, it's better to let the other party understand the meaning by themselves.