Tact, not humble, not haughty

Tact and persuasion is a method of changing passivity into initiative and challenging the other party to make them convinced. For example:

In the Jin Dynasty, there was a scholar named Xu Yun, who was very unhappy when he saw the bride's plain appearance on the wedding night. When the bride asked him why, Xu Yun said quietly, "do you know what a good wife is like?" The bride said humbly, "be filial to the old man, respect your husband, speak kindly, do things quickly, and look good. I can do the first few things, but I can't do it because the appearance is made by heaven. " Xu Yun is still not happy after listening. The bride asked, "Mr. Xiang, you are a scholar. I ask you, how many good qualities do you possess? " Xu Yun replied, "I have everything.". The bride said, "the first rule of good morality is to value morality when you look at people, but you only judge people by their appearance. Since the first one doesn't meet the requirements, how can we say that we all have it? "

Xu Yun was impressed by the bride's eloquence, and finally changed his attitude towards his wife.

When using the method of witty persuasion in a debate, we must rely on our knowledge and brain to change wittily from answering questions to persuading opponents.