Increase the frequency of contact

Generally speaking, the degree of familiarity between people is directly related to the number of contacts. The more times of communication, the closer the psychological distance, the easier to produce common experience, get to know each other and establish friendship, thus forming a good interpersonal relationship. For example, teachers and students, leaders and secretaries, due to the need of work, the number of exchanges, so it is easier to establish close interpersonal relationships. On the contrary, if two people do not have a certain communication, "old age and death do not communicate with each other", then emotion and friendship can not be established.

In fact, the emotional development between people is just like saving money in banking business. Usually, a little bit of saving will make a sum of money after a few years. The relationship among friends, colleagues and relatives also needs to be maintained and managed. If they don't communicate with each other at ordinary times, it means that they don't save money. If they want to ask them for help when they have something to do, it means that they withdraw money from their passbook. If they only withdraw money but don't save it, the passbook will be empty sooner or later.

Therefore, in interpersonal communication, if we want to be liked by others and make them familiar with you, we should walk around more and contact more.

Of course, everything is dialectical, not absolute. We should admit the effect of the frequency and frequency of communication on attraction, but we should not exaggerate its effect on communication. As the saying goes: distance produces beauty, everything has a degree problem. It is inappropriate for some psychologists to focus on the frequency of communication in isolation, pay too much attention to the form of communication, and ignore the content and nature of communication between people. In fact, the number and frequency of contacts can not bring us the expected results, sometimes, it will be counterproductive.