How to overcome selfishness

(1) Introspection: This is the method advocated by the school of structural psychology, which refers to the study of one's own psychological phenomenon through introspection, that is, the statement method of self observation. Selfishness is often a kind of subconscious psychological tendency. To overcome selfishness, we should often observe our own mentality and behavior. There should be certain objective standards for observation, such as social morality, social norms and examples. We should strengthen our study, renew our ideas, strengthen the orientation of social values, and find the gap between models and norms. And from the bad consequences of their own selfish behavior to see the harm, find the problem, summarize the way to correct the mistake.

(2) Do more altruistic behavior: a person who wants to correct his selfish mentality may as well do more altruistic behavior. For example, caring and helping others, donating money to project hope, and helping others solve their problems. Selfish people can start with small things like giving up their seats and lending things to others. They can do more good deeds, correct those abnormal mentality in the past, get the pleasure of altruism from the praise of others, and purify their soul.

(3) Aversion therapy: it is a kind of therapy based on the principle of operational reflex and negative reinforcement in psychology. The specific method is: tie a rubber band on your wrist. Once you have selfish thoughts or behaviors in your mind, hit yourself with a rubber band. You will realize that selfishness is not good from pain, and then gradually correct yourself.