Don't turn over the old books when criticizing others

Many people always hold deep prejudice against those who have made mistakes, been punished or even punished before. In this way, when criticizing and educating them, they will consciously or unconsciously pull the things in front of them together with the things in the past and turn over the old accounts. And this often touches the nerves that others are most sensitive and least willing to let others touch, which makes people have great disgust.

A workshop worker was punished by a notice of criticism for his work mistakes. Later, he had a quarrel with a colleague, so the workshop director talked to him and criticized him, but after a few words, the conversation collapsed. Here is their conversation:

Workshop director: "you have a big fight with your colleagues. It's really impressive."

Worker: "I..."

The workshop director (interrupts the worker): "how are you? Did you forget the last announcement? I didn't forget... "

Worker: "then give me another report! One I hold, two I carry

Workshop director: "you..."

Criticism is the most taboo to turn over the old accounts and shake out the past problems of the other party to show that it is reasonable. However, the barrage of accusations will only expand the opponent's antagonism and make the problems more difficult to solve.

"It's not that I like to expose people's wounds, but that his attitude is so bad that he doesn't mean to repent at all. I can't help turning over the old accounts. " The workshop director defended himself afterwards.

Criticism should aim at the current problems, help subordinates improve their understanding and correct their mistakes. Turning over the old accounts will make subordinates rebellious. Intuition tells him that the leader has been doing the work of collecting all his shortcomings. This time, he is making an account with him, so he will have opposite emotions and will not make any cooperation.