Grasp the main aspects of contradictions and make breakthroughs in key areas

We should cooperate with the more open-minded party, solve the psychological knot of the more stubborn party through appropriate methods, and dispel their resentment. In the conflict between the two sides, often one side is easier to speak, the other side is more stubborn, and often because the stubborn side adhere to their own views, unwilling to tolerate, resulting in an embarrassing situation of stalemate between the two sides, at this time, the persuader should seize the main aspects of the conflict, use the more accessible side of the psychological hope of reconciliation, and actively cooperate with it, mainly for the stubborn side to do work As long as his psychological problems are solved, the problem will be solved.

For example, in 1943, the heads of the Soviet Union, the United States and Britain met in Tehran. Stalin was arrogant, serious, cold and silent. Roosevelt tried every means to break Stalin's silence. Three days later, there was no progress. On the fourth day, he decided to adopt a new tactic. First, he said to Churchill in secret, "Winston, I'm going to do something later, which may have nothing to do with you and offend you. I hope you don't get angry."

Roosevelt first had a personal talk with Stalin, which seemed very friendly and opportunistic. As a result, other Soviets also attended. Stalin still had no smile on his face. At this time, Roosevelt covered his mouth with his hand and whispered, "Winston is a bit strange this morning. He went from one end of the bed to the other. I don't know what he's doing." At this time, Stalin's eyes slightly smile. Then, as they sat at the conference table, Roosevelt attacked Churchill and made fun of him with a series of boring remarks, such as his English gentlemanly manner, his big cigars, his eccentric movements, and all kinds of jokes about John Bull.

Stalin began to move, but Churchill blushed and glared. The more angry he was, the more ridiculous Stalin became. Finally, Stalin couldn't help laughing. Roosevelt went on until everyone laughed happily with Stalin. Since then, Stalin called Roosevelt "Uncle Joseph", often smiling at him and shaking hands with him.

In this case, Stalin's arrogance and stubbornness made the negotiations deadlocked and hindered the smooth progress of the meeting, while Churchill was relatively easy to get along with. In this case, Roosevelt grasped Stalin's "main contradiction", hinted at Churchill in advance, and then played some kind jokes on Churchill. These jokes just catered to Stalin's psychology, and made him break his silence quickly. The atmosphere immediately relaxed, and the embarrassing situation ended. The talks made progress.