When it's hard, it's hard; when it's soft, it's soft

The combination of hardness and softness is a way of dealing with life. It can stop the heated debate, improve the atmosphere and enhance the feelings.

Here is an example of the story of the famous Japanese entrepreneur Matsushita Yukio

Once, his subordinate, goto, made a big mistake. Matsushita was furious, knocking on the floor with a torch and scolding goto severely. After scolding, Panasonic looked at the torch and said, "you see, how excited I was to scold that I twisted the torch. Can you help me straighten it?" What a wonderful request! Goto naturally obeyed. He straightened it by dividing it by two. Panasonic said, "eh? What a clever hand you have Then Matsushita happily praised goto. At this point, goto's discontent disappeared immediately. What surprised goto even more was that as soon as he got home, he saw his wife waiting for him. "What's going on?" Asked goto. "Oh, Mr. Matsushita just called and said," your husband must be in a bad mood when he comes home today. You'd better prepare some delicious food to relieve his boredom. " After that, goto naturally worked vigorously.

Zeng Guofan thought: people can't be without rigidity. Without rigidity, they can't stand on their own. If they can't stand on their own, they can't improve themselves. If they can't improve themselves, they can't make great achievements. Just is what makes a person stand up. Just is a kind of prestige, a kind of self-confidence, a kind of strength, an inviolable spirit. Because of the hard, those sages can be independent and indomitable. People can not be without softness. If there is no softness, they will be incompatible. If they are not compatible, they will fall into isolation, be besieged on all sides, be closed to themselves, and refuse people thousands of miles away. Softness is what makes people stand for a long time.

If a huge stone falls on a pile of cotton, it will be easily wrapped in the cotton. If you use strength to overcome strength, you will lose both sides; if you use softness to overcome strength, you will not go to the disadvantage.