Turn around and ask for help

To turn to the other party for help tactfully is not to come out directly, but to bypass the things that the other party may not agree to, choose a false purpose that comes up with temporarily as a cover, and let the other party agree. After the other party enters the trap, your purpose will be achieved. There are many such examples in real life.

Ray, the editor in chief of the New York Daily, was short of a smart assistant. Later, he focused on young John Hay. At that time, John had just stepped down from his diplomatic post in Madrid, Spain, and was preparing to return to his hometown of Illinois to work as a lawyer.

After making up his mind, let invited John to the League club for dinner. After dinner, he offered to invite John Hay to the newspaper. Sitting at his desk, Leiter found an important piece of news among many telecommunications. It happened that the editor in charge of foreign news was not available at that time, so he said to John, "please sit down and write an editorial about this news for tomorrow's newspaper." Naturally, John couldn't refuse, so he picked up his pen and wrote. The editorial was very well written. After reading it, Leite praised it very much, so he asked him for another week or a month Gradually, he was simply given the post. In this way, John unknowingly gave up the plan to go back to his hometown to be a lawyer and stayed in New York to be a journalist.

From this we can get a skill of asking for help: to ask for help tactfully.

When using this strategy, we should pay attention to: when inducing others, we should first arouse others' interest. When you want to induce others to do something very easy, you have to give them a little victory first; when you want to induce others to do something important, you'd better give them a strong stimulation, so that they have a hope of success in doing it. In this case, he has been stimulated by a sense of desire for success, so he will take the initiative to strive for success. In a word, to arouse others' enthusiastic participation in your plan, we must first induce them to have a try. If possible, we might as well make them start with doing something easy and let them taste some joy of success.