Obedience is better than respect

Obedience is better than respect

It's a Chinese idiom that obedience is better than respect. The Pinyin is g ō NGJ ì NGB ù R ú C ó NGM ì ng. It's a polite saying. It's often used when the other party is polite to themselves. Although it's not worthy, it's not good to disobey orders. From bamboo shoots.

Idioms and allusions

[source]: in Song Shi zanning's bamboo shoot manual, Volume 2: "it's better to be obedient than respectful, and it's better to be obedient when trained."

Discrimination of words

Auntie and granny, since the master is waiting for orders, it's better to be respectful than obedient. After all, it's easier for the waiter to sit down and talk. A long time ago, there was a new daughter-in-law who had just passed the door. Although she is virtuous and industrious, her father-in-law and mother-in-law are always dissatisfied with her actions. One winter, her mother-in-law suddenly asked her daughter-in-law to make bamboo shoot Soup for her. The daughter-in-law promised to do it for her mother-in-law. After a while, she did it for her mother-in-law and sent it to the dinner table. Another daughter-in-law was very strange about this, and asked her, "it's cold winter. Where can I get the tender bamboo shoots?" the daughter-in-law said, "I'll promise first. I'll be respectful and obedient. I'll never be scolded by my mother-in-law.". There is really no place to find the tender bamboo shoots. This is the bamboo shoots I stored long ago. Soon after, her mother-in-law heard these words and felt that she was really unfair to her daughter-in-law, so she changed her attitude and began to show more love for her. From then on, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became better and better, and the whole family lived a happy life. According to this, the local people made up a doggerel: it's better to be respectful than obedient when you are trained. Later, the first two sentences were omitted, and the last two sentences were left behind, which became proverbs. It means: to show respect to a person is better than to comply with his meaning; to accept a person's lesson is better than to comply with his requirements.