Complaining about the shame
The synonym "holding a grudge and snowing a disgrace" generally refers to "reporting a grudge and snowing a disgrace". Chinese idiom, Pinyin is "B à oyu à nxu à ch à", which means "reporting a grudge and washing a disgrace". It's from yance, Warring States strategy.
explain
Newspaper: revenge; snow: wash. Revenge and disgrace.
source
Yan CE, the Warring States policy: "if the former king complained about his shame, he would become a powerful country."
Hold one's grudge and shed one's shame
take good care of one 's parents - wèn ān shì qǐn
scratch one 's ears and cheeks in embarrassment - juē ěr náo sāi
it takes a hundred years to educate the people - bǎi nián shù rén
Take advantage of the situation - jiàn kōng héng píng
not ashamed to admit being the last - bù chǐ zuì hòu