Complaining about the shame
The synonym "holding a grudge and snowing a disgrace" generally refers to "reporting a grudge and snowing a disgrace". Chinese idiom, Pinyin is "B à oyu à nxu à ch à", which means "reporting a grudge and washing a disgrace". It's from yance, Warring States strategy.
explain
Newspaper: revenge; snow: wash. Revenge and disgrace.
source
Yan CE, the Warring States policy: "if the former king complained about his shame, he would become a powerful country."
Hold one's grudge and shed one's shame
It's not that friends don't get together - bù shì yuān jiā bù jù tóu
sweep through the length and breadth of the territory - zòng héng chí chěng
eagerly crane and retract one's neck - tàn tóu suō nǎo
treat lowly but talented one with due respect - zhé jié xià shì
Support the thunder and split the moon - chēng tíng liè yuè