follow the reaction of others without opinion of one 's own

build high forts and dig deep ditches - gāo lěi shēn gōu

There is no end to it - jì bù xuán zhǒng

a marriage between families of equal social rank - mén dāng hù duì

Crying in the night - niú yī yè kū

where the wind passes , the grass bends -- influence of gentlemen - fēng xíng gé yǎn

take advantage of sb . 's undefended state to attack - chéng xū dǎo xì

Starvation is a small matter, while dishonesty is a big one - è sǐ shì xiǎo，shī jié shì dà

attend upon one 's parents personally - hūn dìng chén xǐng

White House - bái wū hán mén

Take advantage of the enemy - yīn dí wéi zī