To be the master of one's family
It's from the book of Rites: Tan Gong Shang: "when Ziyou asked about the funeral utensils, the master said," there's death (nothing) in the family ", which means that the affairs are consistent with the family's economic situation.
It is suitable and consistent. In line with the family economic situation. [example] it is a posthumous letter to Yu Qizi, saying: "erdangying funeral utensils ~." (Biography of Xinfan Hu Dayin by Zhao Bi of Ming Dynasty) it means to do things in accordance with family economic situation.
To be the master of one's family
become a monk or nun late in life - bàn lù chū jiā
The sky is high and the earth is thick - jú gāo tiān,jí hòu dì