Don't worry too much about others

In interpersonal communication, there are often people who care too much about their friends. When a friend encounters difficulties, he is more worried than his friends. When a friend makes mistakes, he is more guilty and remorseful than his friends. In psychology, this kind of psychological emotion is called "high degree of psychological involvement".

People with high degree of psychological involvement are easily affected by the external environment. They always associate themselves with the surrounding environment, leading to emotional fluctuations, improper behavior control, and then psychological problems or interpersonal barriers. Many people who are new to social circles often make such mistakes. They always like to "do all the good things at once", thinking that doing things for each other wholeheartedly will make the relationship harmonious and close. But this is not the case. Because people can not blindly accept other people's efforts, otherwise they will feel unbalanced. This is also a way to balance the relationship. If you are always helping others, making people feel unable to return or have no chance to return, guilt will alienate the beneficiary. Therefore, it is an important criterion to balance interpersonal relationship that good things should not be done all at once.