How to overcome irritability

(1) Tolerance and restraint: as the saying goes: "small pot is easy to be hot, small quantity is easy to be angry." Often lose one's temper and get angry is the performance of narrow-minded and small gas volume. A psychologist advised: "be generous. If we care about everything, we can't live in this vast world." To keep restraint, we must have a high level of self-cultivation. A person with self-cultivation is a person with restraint. A broad-minded person will never get angry for trifles. Even in the case of things that don't go well or are treated unfairly, we can still speak calmly and solve contradictions and problems peacefully.

(2) Keep silence: famous essayist Zhu Ziqing said: "silence is the safest defense strategy." When you realize that you are going to be angry, the best way is to restrain your tongue, force yourself not to speak, and adopt the way of silence. This will help to ease passion, calm your mind, and make silence a panacea for maintaining physical and mental balance and suppressing mental excitement. It can resolve anger without external force.

(3) Avoid in time: when encountering the stimulation that can make oneself angry in life, as long as the situation permits, you may as well take "thirty six stratagems, the best policy is to go". In this way, out of sight and out of mind, the anger is half gone.

(4) Self reminder: when you want to get angry, as long as you can control yourself, you should try to control your emotions with consciousness and warn yourself: "I must not get angry at this time, otherwise it will affect unity and screw up things.". Meditate in your heart: "don't get angry, calm down, calm down." If we persist in this way, we will get certain results.

(5) Transfer of attention: psychological studies have shown that the brain will produce strong excitatory focus when it is stimulated by anger. At this time, if we consciously establish another excitatory focus in the cerebral cortex and use it to replace, offset or weaken the excitatory focus that causes anger, the fire will gradually ease and subside. For example, change the topic, find some happy things to do, listen to music and opera that make you happy, read fascinating novels and poems, or go out for a walk, etc.