How to eliminate revenge psychology

(1) Transposition thinking: when others bring you harm or unhappiness, you should try to recall whether you have brought the same harm to others at a certain time. In this way, the desire for revenge will gradually dissipate. In interpersonal communication, there can be no conflict of interests. When you are frustrated or unhappy, you may as well make a psychological transposition, put yourself in the situation of the other party, and think about what you will do. Through this transposition, you may be able to understand the other party's many difficulties, correctly treat the setbacks or unpleasantness brought by others, so as to eliminate the revenge psychology.

(2) Think more about the harm of revenge: you must first use reason to control the impulsive feelings, calmly think about the possible consequences of the behavior you intend to take, fully aware of the harm it will bring to others and yourself, and restrain excessive behavior. For example, if a classmate wants to find someone to beat a person who has offended him, if he can think of: this behavior may hurt the other party, the other party may also revenge himself again, what he gets will be greater pain and punishment, will also affect his relatives, and thus affect his future, will be reviled, and so on. After comprehensive thinking, I think that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages, and it is not worth it, so I will give up this idea.

(3) Desalination of revenge Psychology: when being bullied, self-esteem hurt, anger will spontaneously arise, even burning with anger. At this time, it can be diluted and transferred through self psychological adjustment. For example, leave the person or environment that you don't like for a while, and engage in some of your happiest activities to help shift your attention. You can also find intimate friends to talk and consult, so as to vent your psychological pressure, listen to other people's comments and persuasion, calmly reflect on each other's real motives, and find out whether it is intentional or unintentional, whether it is an objective existence, whether it is a subjective fabrication or someone's creation, and whether there is a cause for the accident. Think about whether it's worth retaliating and whether there's something wrong with it. After calm and rational reflection and adjustment, the fire in the heart may be put out more than half unconsciously, or even disappear.