Use the way of oppressive conversation to force him to speak the truth

If you are afraid of being cheated by others, in order to get the right information as much as possible in the limited time, you may as well use the way of oppressive conversation, which is the most effective way to force others to speak the truth.

Oppressive conversation is a way to ask the person who is in conversation an unpleasant question, or to isolate the person so that he can make a decision. In other words, it is the method of "abusing" the other party, driving him into a disadvantageous situation and observing his reaction. In a critical situation, most people will show their naked selves, that is to say, the masks used to cover up and show their sense will fall off, and finally reveal their true thoughts.

Shinhiko lohe, a Japanese journalist who is famous for his aggressive and courageous way of interview in the international political circles, once described his own interview creed in his works, which is to provoke the anger of the interviewees.

In order to break the strong psychological defense of the interviewees and tell them what they really mean, he often deliberately acts impolitely or raises some sharp questions to force them to tell the truth through oppressive conversation.

The reason why he was able to know the confidential information that other reporters could not dig out was that this ingenious interview method, which broke through other people's psychological defense line, benefited him a lot.

If you want to know whether the person you meet for the first time is true, or whether he cares about the topic of conversation, you can use the method of oppressive conversation. Among them, the most commonly used method is to deliberately disagree with the other party. However, no matter how to explore the other party's true meaning, if it causes the other party's anger, it may cause negative effects. If you think it's OK to break off the relationship, or if you're confident that you can calm the other person's anger and restore a good relationship, that's another matter. If this is not the case, it is necessary to deal with it carefully.

Therefore, the best way is to borrow the third party to raise the counter argument, so as to avoid the other party's aversion when they raise the counter argument. In any case, it is a way to make the other party feel unhappy. It is best to use it only when it is necessary to recognize the other party's true meaning or humanity.