To give people face is to give people a gift

What is face? "Face" is the basis of a person's "dignity" and foothold in the group. In other words, it represents "status". For the sake of "face", some people will turn over at a small scale, but at a large scale they will cause death.

If you are a person who doesn't care about "face", it's hard for you to become a popular person; if you are a person who doesn't care about your own face and other people's face, then one day you will lose money for your face. To walk in society, you have to be clear about this. This is also the reason why many sophisticated people do not easily say a word criticizing others in public. They prefer to give it to others with a high hat. They can not only save others' face, but also get the face of others' return. They know each other by heart and do it to their best. This situation is common in social occasions.

There is a person in the publishing industry who is recommended as a reviewer every year to participate in the work of magazine evaluation. Although this job is not paid much, it is an honor. Many people can't find a way to participate. Some people only participate once or twice and have no chance. Why does he have this "special honor" every year? He didn't disclose the secret until he retired and didn't take part in the work.

He said that his professional vision is not the key, and his position is not the key. The reason why he is able to be a judge every year is that he is very good at giving "face".

He said that at the open review meeting, he must grasp one principle: praise more, encourage more and criticize less. But after the meeting, he will find the editors of the magazine and tell him in private about his shortcomings in editing.

Therefore, although the magazine has its own ranking, everyone has saved face. That is to say, because he has given others face, everyone respects and likes him no matter who is in charge of the business or the editorial staff of various magazines. Of course, he is chosen as the judge every year.

Everyone loves face, you give him face is to give him a gift. One day when you ask him to do something, he will naturally give you face. That's the whole essence of operating a human relationship account.