Learn to turn enemies into friends

Once, President Lincoln met a congressman. The congressman criticized President Lincoln's attitude toward the enemy. "Why do you try to be friends with them?" "You should try to destroy them," he demanded

"Am I not destroying my enemies?" Lincoln said gently, "especially when I make them friends."

This profound strategy has played an immeasurable role in communication, which can not but arouse our attention. When we meet an opponent who is against us or who secretly competes with us, we must not be angry. If we spend our time and energy on thinking about how to "beat" our opponent or overpower him with some advantage, we will only accumulate more and more resentment. We should seek opportunities to get close to each other and make them our friends. This is much better than rubbing our fists and fighting like an open shot or an indirect arrow. That is to say, in the art of war, Sun Tzu said, "a soldier who subdues others without fighting.".

An important factor in a person's success is that he can turn many people he doesn't know into new friends. People are not exactly the same, the most obvious difference is often reflected in a person's hobbies, and through behavior, habits, opinions and so on. When we meet different people, we should pay attention to them and try our best to integrate them with ourselves.